Creating Your Own Support System

By Phyllis Mufson

Support...don't take off in pursuit of your goals without it. Remember this important safety rule from the airlines for those high-stress times when oxygen is needed on a flight. “Always put on your own mask first.” (Then you are sure to have what you need while you're helping children and other travelers.)

Let's face it, for many women it's second nature to put others' needs before their own. Unfortunately that ability to encourage wanes when it's time for a woman to put on her own “oxygen mask” of support while implementing her goals. Then she finds herself feeling stuck when she runs into the obstacles inevitable in any new venture.

Writing clear goals and tracking your progress is very helpful. But what happens when you add a support and accountability system to the mix? From my experience working with hundreds of women I can state that you'll stay focused and motivated as you move into action, you'll ease and speed the whole process—and the journey will be a lot more fun.

Consider working with a support/accountability partner. Someone you meet with regularly, in person or on the phone and who also wants to accomplish something. Choose someone who is willing to lend an ear to your triumphs and frustrations, who can help you problem solve, and who will witness your commitment to actions toward your goals.

Or hire a coach whose skills will help you see broader possibilities, clarify your direction and tap into your strengths—so that your body, mind and spirit are aligned for truly effective action.

Another idea is to consider getting group support. Banding with others is a highly effective for many people. People always have more ideas for others than for themselves (because they don't have to deal with their inner self-doubt), and goal-setting support groups can generate tremendous motivating energy and creativity.

Give yourself the gift of support. Allow others to help you and you'll multiply your chances for success in living your dream.